Bad Dads Are Good Dads

In today’s culture bad dads are good dads. This is really a return to traditional attitudes.

Women now earn more than men. Women are the bread-winners in a most families, according to recent polls. This is due to so many men being laid-off, unemployed, out of work. The result is in many families the dads are at home and the moms go to work.

This is proving a hard slog for many of these dads. I am hearing this from many dogs, in regards to their families. It is causing a lot of tension and upheaval in homes. Dads feel devalued, demasculinized. Wives are penalizing them by cutting them off from sex and from family finances. Affairs are on the rise, as men look elsewhere for pleasure and validation. But women are cheating more, as they search for their real men.

Dads are supposed to provide. Dads who provide more are better dads. So dads who are willing to do whatever it takes to provide more are better dads. Often these dads are absent dads. They are absent making money, to provide the big houses and nice cars and lots of electronics. They are absent doing things that are often immoral, such as lying and stealing and deceiving and breaking. But the ends justifies the means, and if that end means more money, then all is forgiven and they are good dads.

As I said, this is a return. For thousands of years men went out and hunted, often for months, and farmed and did those things they had to do to feed their family, pack or tribe.

But things are different today. The hunting ground has been replaced by the cubicle and PC. But there are a finite number of those, far fewer than just a few years ago. But expectations of men have not really changed. Bring home the big hunk of mastodon or you will be replaced by someone who can.

Those dads that are always there for their kids, are loving and nurturing and attentive, but cannot execute and close to provide the big money, and thus cannot provide, then they are bad dads.

This is of course a major issue now for Sherry and Jack. And I don't know how to help them. I struggle with that, as do many other weredogs, with their families.

I am not sure what this means for dogs. If a man has good scent, or gives us leftovers, we tend to like him, regardless of how much the guy has in his bank account. I have a sizable portfolio and assets. Although, it has been accruing for a very long time. But I do not even consider all that in defining myself as a dog, a man, or a were. There are too many other things to consider.